D A B D A.

Hey friends,
I know, you guys may be thinking what is this D A B D A. I recently read an article somewhere about this DABDA and after reading my first expression was "How True". Let me tell you about this DABDA.

Also known as Stages of Greif, DABDA stands for Denial Anger Bargaining Depression Acceptance.

It is described as the emotional and psychological responses that many people experience when faced with a life-threatening illness or life-changing situation or loss of something very close and important.

The first thing that comes to one's mind, when hearing of a loss or life-changing situation is DENIAL. They don't believe it. They denay it. This is the denail stage. "No this can't be happening. I don't believe this." This is what one goes through during this phase.

The next stage is the ANGER stage. In this stage people basically show anger. They are angry on everyone. They are angry on God, people, everything. "How can you do this to me? How dare you do this to me?" are the first things that come to mind. In this period of time people are basically blinded by anger.

The third stage is the bargaining stage. In this stage people try to bargain things out. People try hard to get things back. They try hard to get things right by bargaining. One offers all kinds of bargains to set things right. To God, especially. "Please God, Please."

The fourth stage in this process is the depression phase. In this stage, understandable, people are in depression. They try to spend most of the time alone. Not talking to anyone. Try to avoid everyone. Try to cut off from the world. But this is the time when one should be strong. A weak person can do anything in this stage. This stage is the most dangerous phase of the whole package. One who can overcome this phase can sort off all the troubles and problems.

Now the final stage is Acceptance. This stage is all about a new begining. People leave behind the past and move with the present. They accept whatever they are left with and move on accepting the facts. And accepting a fact relieves all the denial, anger, bargain and depression on that fact and the person walks in a new direction.

So friends, if you come across any life-changing situation or loss of something very close and important, which you hopefully wouldn't, don't be upset. Life is a roller coaster ride with lots of ups and downs. So just move on.

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